Expressing gratitude in your marriage is essential if you are to maintain it. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and it cannot be maintained without some form of appreciation. Marriage is the only union that can give you what you want and you have to be happy in your marriage. If you want your marriage to be happy, then you must express your gratitude to your spouse for all that he/she has given you. Here are some ways of expressing gratitude:
In front of your spouse. When you and your spouse are alone, you can say that you appreciate your spouse by simply saying, “I love you.” This shows that your true feelings for your spouse has been revealed. You may also include some sincere words. The important thing is that you have said it. There is no harm in doing this a number of times a day.
In private. Another great way of expressing your feeling for your spouse is to send him/her a simple letter. Start by thanking your spouse for his/her co-operation and then mention how much you appreciate his/her efforts. Once you are done, ask for forgiveness for what you have done or are going to do to your spouse.
In a public place. It is considered highly disrespectful to shout at your spouse when he/she is with other people. This is one way of telling your spouse that he/she is no longer important. You should avoid shouting at your spouse unless there is physical violence taking place. In such a situation, you will have to be sensitive enough to ensure that the situation does not get out of hand.
In front of friends and family. You should remember that your spouse is not just any friend or family member. You have to treat them with respect and remember that they are also human. You cannot express your feelings to them in a mean manner.
At work. It is acceptable to say “I feel bad about what I have done to my spouse” in a job interview. However, it is highly improper to put your entire blame on your spouse in front of your colleagues or employers. This will only harm your marriage and create further problems for you two.
Sometimes, it is necessary to express your anger and feelings to someone whom you do not know. If you cannot do it face-to-face, you can always express it through private messages. It is important to note that even if you have a good relationship with your spouse, it is never okay to vent your anger on him/her in public places. This is because you are doing this in front of others and it will have negative effects.
There are many other ways in which you can show your appreciation to your spouse. However, it is important that you do not force your spouse to reciprocate your actions. It is not healthy. Instead, it is important that you let your spouse be the one to initiate and appreciate your actions. Expressing your gratitude will definitely strengthen your marriage.
On events that are worth celebrating. Your spouse’s accomplishments are always worthy of a thank you. It does not always have to be something big, like your latest promotion or a new contract. A simple thank you from you after you’ve accomplished something is also great.
When he/she does something nice for you. It is okay to say “thank you” after your spouse has done something nice for you. For instance, when your spouse throws a party for his/her birthday, tell them “Thank you! I enjoyed your party.” It is important that you make your spouse feel appreciated.
Job well done. It is always appropriate to state your appreciation for your spouse’s job well done in the job. You can say it at a formal meeting or a casual meeting before taking the next step. However, if you need to greet your spouse at work just as a friend, saying “I congratulate you” is a perfect way to say thanks.
Expressing gratitude is a good habit and should be encouraged by all. You’ll be surprised at the effect it can have in your relationship. Remember that everyone deserves a little appreciation once in awhile. After all, your spouse deserves a lot more than you do!